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A Parents Guide to Getting Kids to do Chores

In my Parents Guide to Pocket Money I mentioned that it’s not always a good idea to attach pocket money to chores. It’s just too easy for kids to refuse to do chores because they either don’t yet value money, or don’t have an immediate need for it – leaving you frustrated and with more things to do! You’ll still need a way of incentivising the kids to do what needs to be done. If it’s not going to be with money, then the best idea is to create a second form of currency which can be earned. Here’s some ideas on how – and why – to do this. Use the things your kids value the most Figuring out what incentives to offer in return for doing chores is easy – just find the things your kids value the most. In our house that would be access to technology, but it could just as easily be treats, play dates, sleepovers, or all of the above or anything else you think will work. Whatever it …

My 24 hours of ‘Yes’

If you’re reading this because you think I’ve come up with some new found way of finding happiness or fulfilment, then you might as well stop now. Truth is, my 24 hours of ‘yes’ was born out of guilt. I’d been a bit harsh on Miss 10. Two days running she had organised a playdate with a friend, and 2 days in a row I’d had to say no. While the first ‘no’ was based on a very legitimate reason, the second ‘no’ was not one of my proudest parenting moments. No amount of telling her I was wrong, apologising or offering to fix the situation by magic-ing up an instant playdate seemed to help. Apparently all I ever say is ‘no’. In a moment of madness, I turned to Miss 10 and offered to make it up to her by giving her ’24 hours of ‘yes’ – for 24 hours I had to say ‘yes’ to anything so long as it was within reason, and so long as each request only had to be …

Giving Presence, Not Presents

Sometimes life unfolds a series of small and seemingly unimportant events that end up having a significant impact. I’d just finished a rather long and involved discussion with the children on their upcoming birthdays – all three of which are in February. I felt exhausted – having just got through the toy-fest that is Christmas I now had more presents and parties to organise. I made a cup of tea, flicked open a magazine and found an article about a theory called Stuffocation. Author James Wallman believes we are moving  away from the debt and stress of materialism – where we use stuff to declare status – and moving towards “experientialism” where we focus less on what we have and more on what we do. The book has given me the words to explain the changes that have been happening in our household (which you can read about here) in the last year. That same day I got an invitation from a Facebook friend to a Monster Slide Festival. At that moment I realised I …